Common Limiting Beliefs That Lower Self-Esteem and How to Challenge Them

Have you ever found yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough,” or “I don’t deserve success”? If so, you’re not alone. These thoughts often stem from what we call limiting beliefs—those sneaky, subconscious thoughts that hold us back from reaching our true potential. Over time, they can erode our self-esteem and keep us stuck in a cycle of doubt and self-sabotage.

What are limiting beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are assumptions or perceptions we hold about ourselves and the world around us. They’re often formed through past experiences, upbringing, or societal pressures, and they keep us from living up to our fullest potential. These beliefs shape how we approach life, work, and relationships. In particular, when they’re rooted in low self-esteem, they can make us feel inadequate, undeserving, or afraid to step outside our comfort zone.

Common limiting beliefs that erode self-esteem:

“I’m not qualified enough to succeed.”

This belief makes us feel inadequate, leading us to doubt our abilities and avoid taking risks. You might hesitate to apply for that promotion or start a business because you don’t feel “ready” or “expert” enough.

“I’m not as good as [insert someone else].”

In our social media-driven world, comparison is inevitable. But constantly comparing yourself to others not only drains your confidence but keeps you trapped in the belief that you’re always falling short.

“I don’t deserve success or happiness.”

This belief is especially harmful. If you feel like you don’t deserve good things, you’re less likely to go after your dreams or accept opportunities, even when they’re right in front of you.

These limiting beliefs can create a mental roadblock, leaving you stuck and preventing you from feeling confident and capable.

How to start challenging these beliefs:

1. Identify the belief.

The first step is to become aware of when these thoughts arise. Often, we’re so used to thinking this way that the limiting belief feels like a fact. Take a moment to pause and write down what’s going through your mind.

2. Challenge it with evidence.

Once you’ve identified the limiting belief, ask yourself: Is this true? Is there any real evidence to support it? Often, you’ll find that the belief doesn’t hold up under scrutiny. For example, if you think, “I’m not qualified enough,” reflect on your achievements so far. You’ve likely succeeded in many areas of your life, and that’s proof of your capability.

3. Replace the belief.

Once you’ve challenged the limiting belief, it’s time to reframe it. Instead of saying, “I’m not good enough,” try thinking, “I’m learning and growing every day.” This shift in perspective can help you approach new opportunities with a sense of possibility, rather than fear.

4. Take action.

Confidence grows through action. The more you step outside your comfort zone and take on challenges despite your limiting beliefs, the stronger your self-esteem becomes. Whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, launching a project, or taking time for self-care, action helps break the cycle of doubt.

Building confidence is a journey

Remember, confidence isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we develop over time. By identifying and challenging your limiting beliefs, you can start to rebuild your self-esteem and move forward with more clarity, focus, and self-assurance. If this is something you want to work on, bring this up in your next session with me. Confidence is something you have the power to increase with practice overtime!